First of all, what the heck is a memory stone – and why on earth should you carry one? These are questions any reasonable person would ask.
“No matter what kind of challenges or difficulties or painful situations you go through in your life, we all have something deep within us that we can reach down and find the inner strength to get through them.” – Alana Stewart
A memory stone is a stone that you pick up at a meaningful time in your life. It could be attending a funeral of someone you deeply loved, or from a vacation that had happy memories, or finishing that marathon that you’ve always been meaning to do.
Some people find their stone at his or her weakest point, as a way to remember that moment and to never fall that far down again.
Others want to keep a happy memory front and center in their mind, so when they are having a rough day, they touch the rock and are instantly transported to a more joyful time.
If you’ve read my About Me page on my blog, you know about the first time I went to Montana. My cousin had moved there years before, and I never could find the time to visit her.
I was at a very stressful period in my life. I had a job that was less-than-desirable, a commute that got worse every month because of the influx of people moving to the area and zero free time to do the things I wanted to do.
One year, I made visiting my cousin happen. It was the fall, and I had to bring one of my dogs because she was 15-years-old and was at the end of her life, so she couldn’t be left with a sitter. We drove off very early in the morning and got to my cousin’s house late that night.
It was a full moon the night I got there, and as I drove around Flathead Lake with the moon reflecting in the water – to say it was magical would be an understatement.
When I woke up in the morning and saw the wide open space, the amazingly blue sky and being surrounded by mountains, for the first time in a long time – the stress just left my body.
The magic of the area seemed to have an effect on my 15-year-old dog too. There were deer in my cousin’s back yard when I took her out to go the bathroom and she gave chase (no worries of her “catching” them – she couldn’t catch a turtle!) She came back from her “run” happy like I hadn’t seen her in a while.
I was in Montana for five days. No traffic jams. No to-do lists. I was able to soak up the positive energy that surrounded me.
If you’ve been to Montana, you’ll know what I mean. If you haven’t been to Montana, you’ll have to plan a trip and see for yourself.
When you’ve been living with chronic stress for such a long time and then to be able to relax for a few days finally, it changes you.
I knew I couldn’t continue with the life I had been leading and I had to make the steps to change. This blog had been something I wanted to start but never did.
While I was there, I set up a Pinterest account called “Montana Happy” and just started pinning all the things I loved and wanted in my life. I immediately got followers. A lot of followers.
When I got home, I set the wheels in motion to start this blog. My trip to Montana was a turning point, and I picked up a rock when I was in Bigfork, MT because I wanted a reminder of this time in my life.
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It was a token of a simpler life that I craved. There was no reason to continue on the path that I was taking. I could change things. So I did.
Step by step, I’ve been changing my life for the good.
I think most of us are stressed out, and I’ve made it my new mission in life to change that.
My rock sits on my desk as I write this post. Who knew that something so common could offer such significance in my life?
It nudges me forward when I don’t feel like doing something. It’s a reminder on the bad days that things will get better. And it signifies the distance of how far I’ve come from that trip.
I think everyone could use his or her own memory stone to keep as a reminder of what you truly want in life and to stay the course.
Some people write a word or phrase on the rock to inspire them. Others simply leave it natural. It’s your choice.
Maybe there’s a place near your home that you like to go that has beautiful scenery that would be the perfect place to find your stone, or maybe you revisit your childhood home when you lived a carefree life and pick up a reminder of your visit.
The possibilities are endless. I know someone who has a basket of rocks in her bedroom. To someone else, they are worthless. For her, they are priceless. Each stone represents a time in her world when something changed. Sometimes for the better and sometimes for the worse.
The basket reminds her how far she’s come and that even in dark times she found the strength to pick herself back up and continue on the journey of life.
You can also take your memory stone and transform it into something else to carry with you. A jewelry artist can make it into a pendant or a key chain.
If you want to write words on your stone, the best markers for this are Posca markers. Other markers have a hard time making smooth letters. Make sure you seal your rock with this to protect it in case the ink gets wet.
One of the things I did was to create a Facebook group called Creating a Cozy Life with over 3,000 like-minded souls. It’s a group where we share recipes, pictures of things that leave you in awe, and ideas on how to make your life just a little bit more snug. Join here to be part of the virtual cozy cabin.
We’ve reached the end of Why You Should Carry a Memory Stone. I hope you enjoyed it!
Let me know in the comments below if you have memory stones and what moments they represented in your life.
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